As I stated in a previous post(here) there are reasons why this won't be about sex. It is going to be about really pleasing a woman. Not too long ago I was fishing with a group. A couple of guys were grousing about women anchors on ESPN, sports being the last bastion of male dominance or so they thought. One fellow said "Women, we wouldn't even talk to them if they didn't have....", here I apologize for the vulgarity but I felt it necessary to my point. I told the man he really was a complete moron and went back to the water. Still his comment has stuck in my craw since then. Perhaps he was only joking, and didn't think that way.Trying to be macho and all that. Stupid thing to say in front of a father of three girls. I also remember my sister-in-law's first husband saying to her" That's OK her doesn't have to be smart, her pretty". She replied with a body shot that would have made "Smokin' Joe" Frazier proud. As I said first husband. So why is it some men just don't get it? Don't know. I do have a few ideas that if you keep reading you'll hear. Do woman want to be treated like sex objects? Yes, but only by the man they feel the same way about. Not by Leering Larry when they smile at him and say excuse me in the Starbucks line. Do women want to be your equal? No they want to be your partner sharing her strengths with yours. Well then wise guy, how do they want to be treated ? Just like you do pal. Like the person they are. Not classified as anything, just themselves.Not your pet or rival. And above all else remember Spencer Tracy's last line in "Adam's Rib" ......"Viva le Difference"
p.s. as I always say, like I know anything.
James! way to go Rosewood! Love that post..... BTW I'm particularly sexy at the moment, it's minus five degrees(beyond freezing) and I'm wearing my entire wardrobe... I'm curvaciously challenged, or maybe it's concave-ly challenged...
ReplyDeleteSpot on James. I make a point of making beingmanly inclusive to ladies, and I should say that your attitude to the opposite sex is, so far as I'm concerned, a central tenet of being a manly man. Macho has no place whatsoever.
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In the UK we have a TV show staring Harry Enfield and Paul Whitehouse, they do a comedy sketch show. One of the sketches every week is about three friends, in one sketch they were fishing! The gist is there are two that say things like your fishing group man, all 'macho' rubbish, then there is one who goes along with it but in reality he is'nt like that at all.
ReplyDeleteLove the bit about a woman wanting to be equal. I so agree, never equal, just a shared partnership.
I wonder if those grousing men were married?!!!
Well said, James! Yes, I've encountered a number of neanderthals over the years and thank God I found an amazing man who puts so many others to shame. And, as a father, he instills respect for one's self, as well as others, into each of our kids. Good for you for telling that guy he was a moron - the world could you more men like you. :)
ReplyDeleteJames: you just proved that you know everything, you hit the nail on the head with both observations.
ReplyDeleteThis is why you have been married for 35 years.
ReplyDeleteSadly, you are right...some guys do not get it...never did...never will. I am going on 20 years of marriage and try to adhere to the tenets of treating her right every day.
ReplyDeleteI love this post. Partners not equals is a lovely way to describe a relationship.
ReplyDeleteWhere would Spencer Tracy have been without Katherine Hepburn...and where would Kate have been without Spence (and not just in Adam's Rib, Woman of the Year or Pat and Mike, in their actual lives together)Both brought their unique attributes to the relationship.
Very well said!
ReplyDeleteHello James...I would say you know quite a lot. I could not agree with you more! I feel extremely thankful that I have a husband who enjoys talking to me and hearing what I have to say.
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James,
ReplyDeleteThank you! I so dislike that everything in this world has to do with sex and feminine display. I sometimes wish that I lived in another era. I love when gentlemen hold the door for me or, when carrying on a conversation with me, treat me like I have a brain rather than carrying on the entire time with sexual innuendos.
How to please a woman?
ReplyDeleteVery simple.
Pay attention.
Then don't.
Then do. Ad amor, ad infinitum.
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ReplyDeleteThanks for reminding us that there are still 'real' gentlemen out there...hopefully, they out-number the morons.
ReplyDeleteThat's why we love you, James! You understand us! x
ReplyDeleteHave you always been this smart, James? Or did having three daughters teach you some useful stuff? This post is pure gold. Thank you, kind sir.
ReplyDeleteDING DING DING! That's the sound of you hitting the nail on the head James! And this is especially true, "Do woman want to be treated like sex objects? Yes, but only by the man they feel the same way about"
ReplyDeleteJames, you're the bees knees! :-)
Completely on the mark, as usual! You're a gem James!
ReplyDeleteWrote a comment then PC froze, so this might come up twice. Ah well. I'll always blame technology when it could be my stupidity.
ReplyDeleteSo - thanks James for that post. I like to read things like that.
It never fails to amaze me the number of people that just don't get it. It's simple.
I still shudder when I think of my first "real" job and the rubbish I put up with. It was in an investment bank and I was the only female in the department, the youngest and a foreigner. It might have been my youth, or just lack of confidence, but I'd just pretend to laugh it off. "No I won't sit on your lap. Ha ha."
There is NO WAY I would put up with that now.
I have been so spoiled in my life - I wouldn't even know how to react to stupid men like you mention. Most of the men I've come in contact with - bosses, my Dad, uncles, even my husband - view women with the same regard you do. Whew!
ReplyDeleteHi James, I always smile when I see that you have taken the time to leave a comment on my blog. Your post is right on, and I think it's interesting that you chose to include a photo of one of the strongest women ever, Katherine Hepburn. I'm sure that if a man didn't get it right with Kate, that she would let them know IMMEDIATELY! Take care my friend, and thank you for your lovely comment about my Irish Christmas tree! Ciao, bella!
ReplyDeleteIt would be my biggest joy for my daughters to have a husband who thought just as you do. My husband (#2) has always treated me as an equal and like you stated, just as he would like to be treated. #1 - well let's just say that is why there was a #2!
ReplyDeleteWonderful post James..wonderful!
Oh..forgot.. I love that the photo you posted was of Katharine Hepburn. I named my eldest daughter after her I admired her so much. ( :
ReplyDeleteMy cherest James,
ReplyDeleteYou know everything.
"Women, we wouldn't even talk to them if they didn't have...." This is one of the saddest things I've ever read. I really feel sorry for any guy whose wife is not their best friend as well as partner.
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