I'm going to tread softly here. I just want to say that I like women. Right up front I'll let you know this has absolutely nothing to do with s-e-x. I know very little about the subject, my experience has been happily limited to one woman for the last 34 years . I am talking about the company of women. To sit and converse with a lady is a joy so many men today don't appreciate. Not many of us would stand by and allow a man to physically abuse a woman. As Mr T used to say"Pity the fool!". But what about the guy who just plain ignores women. You know the type his woman is a possession, if he wanted company he would have married his frat brother. Hey I like to hang out with the menfolk, but I don't get "male bonding". I don't need to drink beer and urinate outdoors to establish my manhood. Come home and listen to your mate tell you about her day, share your day ,laugh or argue as long as you are communicating. If you think that diminishes your macho, then my friend you're wrong. There is nothing more manly than treating a lady with the respect and affection you expect from her. I guess to some I may sound a bit "sissified" . Again "Pity the fool!"
James, what a wonderful post. You are most definitely NOT sissified. To be a faithful husband to your wife for 34 years - all the men out there to need to pull up a chair and take some wise advice from you. Bravo!
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Absolutely not sissified at all, I read your post today nodding my head in total agreement.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully put James, I really do enjoy reading your blog.
Best wishes for a lovely week-end,
Simone
PS I just wanted to add that "The Quiet Man" and "Zulu" are two of my favourite films too, I have seen "Zulu" more times than I care to count, Michael Caine is really good in it isn't he...Stanley Baker too.
ReplyDeleteI think one of the reasons that I like it so much is because it is about the Welsh Guards and my family are all Welsh...."Men of Harlech" is the song they sing at the end and actually, my father was at college in Harlech, it's a very tiny town in North Wales.
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very well said.
ReplyDeleteVery well stated. I am so thankful that I am married to a man who isn't afraid to show his emotional side and is friendly, loving, considerate, yet still a man.
ReplyDeleteWell said love! Goth blogs unite-LOL. You are someone I'd really like to meet. But, until then I enjoy your blog and this one was lovely.
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ps I can always tell a Lady hater-he does not have time nor does he make eye contact. So I ignore them. But we are on to your sex. Which I know nothing about as I'm a married lady. ha!
Ah, James, you have made every woman who reads this swoon. How fortunate your wife is to have you! I have one at home just like you. We've been happily married for 28 years.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Kathie Truitt. Luckily, I am married to a man that thinks just like you do. Love, love, love the picture also.
ReplyDeleteWonderful! Thanks for picking up where far too many fathers are dropping the ball. It's the little lessons of life that seem to have been lost and forgotten.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely and well-put post! I am quite sure that "sissified" is definitely not a word anyone would use to describe you. And might I add, what a very lucky lady your wife is!
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You are a love! email me your address and I'll send you a book as a Christmas gift beth@socialclimbers.net
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James, I hear the sound of women all over the place falling a teeny tiny bit in love with you...!!
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your kind words. The thing that made me the happiest was that so many of you feel your mate feels as I do. There may be hope for the male animal yet!
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I think that many men could learn from your wise words. Thank you for posting this. I hope you're having a fantastic weekend.
ReplyDeleteSo very true. I am so lucky in my husband as he rather prefers my company and really gets along well with women. He was mostly raised by women and I think, on some level, that allows him to associate and appreciate them on their level. He has he few male friends, but they too are not the 'urinate together' 'smash beer cans' 'degrade women in their oogling' type. Sometimes, though I know it is not pc, think maybe 'breeding' does have something to do with it, as my hubby is, by lineage, an 'old new englander/ mayflower stock'. But, that is probably more about generations of men that, despite the 1960's, continued to hold chairs and doors for ladies, speak of appropriate subjects in their company, and be lucky enough to have women with interesting conversation to, well, converse with, I Suppose. I am thankful there is no modern tv in my life, because just from what I recall from last year, the modern 'american male' seems to be caught somewhere between 12-14 yet with the mouth of a sailor and the libido of one on shore leave! I feel bad for young men and especially young ladies today. Respect, manners and really, intelligent conversation has gone the way of 'texting' 'tweeting' 'i-ming' etc. Thank goodness for men such as you, 50s man, and my husband. Perhaps we can start an apron revolution for you, the 'bow tie revolution'! Vive la revolution!
ReplyDeleteI think the thing is that too many young men are influenced by what they see growing up and not enough by their own education or discovery. Many young men today are busy trying to adopt what they see as being manly. I see it as a lack of communication and education about vital relationship skills. It may not make for great hollywood but it makes for honest and long lasting relationships. I mean, if you can't be friends with your partner, who can you really be friends with?
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. I greatly appreciate it. I'm glad you enjoyed my Elvis Christmas post. I wanted to let you know that I'm having trouble with my internet access right now. I may not be online as much, but I did want to visit your blog. I hope you will have a great week. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteThis I have to say is my favorite post of yours although the one with your father fishing in a hat and tie came a very close second. My Grandfather use to wear his hat and tie even when sailing or fishing.
ReplyDeleteI'm afraid to say that in many ways women have done a lot of this to themselves, I think that if you want a man to behave like a Gentleman towards you, then you should behave like a Lady. If your ever really bored you can find a few things out about me on my own blog. I raised my boys to know their manners as I did my daughter, but sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing when I see how society behaves around them. One of my latest posts about the people of Walmart will appall and astonish you all in one breath. But be warned your eyes may melt. The girls in the photos are no Ladies.
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I'm holding back tears. I love hearing men talk about women in this way. I am so grateful that we have had the chance to meet you through 50sgal. I feel like reaching through the computer to give you a hug, and say thank you.
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