It has long been the bane of the males in our clan to be so manly as to cause weak hearted women to swoon. OK maybe it just started with my Grandsons, but its definitely here now. The part of being manly that is missing with so many young men today is self confidence. The obscene lack of respect for women I think stems from this. They feel the need to abuse women to boost their own egos. Both mental and physical abuse ( to me there is no difference, both should carry a horsewhipping penalty) seem almost expected today. I know psychological issues are extremely complicated, but one factor has to be a sense of self-reliance. Instead of cratering to their every need show them how to do it. Iron your own shirt. sew that button on yourself,and for the love of Mike put down the game controller and make a sandwich. Now before you grab torches and pitchforks and storm my castle, I know I'm preaching to the choir here. What I've seen posted from those that I commune with here, makes me honestly believe you folks know what I'm talking about.I'm only venting to calm down a bit. I swear some grown up men still have their butts wiped and powdered for them. One of my character traits I hope the Little Rat Pack does not get from me is acting like I know anything.
Your first sentence made me laugh out loud James...altho you know we all swoon over those gorgeous grandsons of yours so I have no idea why I was laughing ;)
ReplyDeleteAnd the rest of your post.....hear hear, very well said.
I hope your long week-end went well.
If you by any chance have 2 minutes to spare today, I would really appreciate a small favour for my friend Butch over at my blog....thank you so much.
What a handsome little man!! And I do hope that there was some fishing enjoyed off of that pier (if that is your sort of thing...)
ReplyDeleteI would ask everyone to visit Simone's friend Butch.
ReplyDeleteSP. Oh yes some bluegills were added to the future fish fry.
Amen to that brother, James! My husband was raised that way and I intend for our son to be raised that way as well. His sister is already making sure of that. The other day, I heard him say, "Ladies first!"
ReplyDeleteWhat a handsome young guy you have there. I'm sure he's in good hands. :)
Quite so. I believe you have hit the nail at which I most often take aim squarely on the bonce.
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My boys didn't marry right away and so knew how to cook, emergency sew and clean. And they are kind and loving to boot. Swoon indeed.
ReplyDeleteI'm proud to have raised two such lovely men.
Enjoyed meeting the prepster and will go on over to Butch's now.
Well said James ....totally agree......and that photograph of your grandson is just gorgeous....... oh, and there are lots of men out there who pay good money to have their butt wiped and powdered !!!! hehe. XXXX
ReplyDeleteThank you for supporting Butch James, that is very kind of you and I appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteI am also returning to let you know that you are the winner of my "5 Paperbacks" giveaway....how about that?! If you would like to email me, I will arrange for an Amazon gift voucher to be sent to you :) Well done :)
You know I'm firmly with you on this! Well said.
ReplyDeleteJMW- I have no doubt your little man is being shown the right way.
ReplyDeleteVB- From what I've seen on your blog ,you pretty much hit the nail on the first try.
Barbara- Thank you for proving my point!
Jackie- And how would you know of such men?
Simone- Wow thank you!
JDB- Your agreement doesn't surprise me. but it still pleases me.
I am certain this is why I didn't take a husband until I was in my 30's...men who didn't know how to do the most basic things were always a big turn-off.
ReplyDeleteWe know couples who can't figure out why their sons are so rude and lazy. Perhaps I should send them to your blog! In fact one of them has to rush home at 3:30 in case her son forgot his key. I say let him sit on the front step for a couple of hours like we would've had to and he wont be likely to forget it again!
We are going to homeschool and I can assure you a good part of our son's education will be self-sufficience!
HI James,
ReplyDeleteI'm so tired of hearing "boys will be boys" when used to explain poor behavior by the male sex. Having raised girls, I hope they will encounter only young men raised by fathers with your point of view. Well said, and funny too. As always.
xo
Heidi - Heart and Home
The lack of self confidence in both young men and women today is astounding and I like you believe it's the reason for the shocking behavior. I pray that there will be a return of self respect and respect for others soon.
ReplyDeleteAnd the little grandson is definitely swoon worthy!
James, Well played old boy.
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I'm trying very hard to instill respect for everyone (men, women, animals) with my sons. It is hard to know if you are succeeding some days.
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I love how you cut to the chase with such wit. One of my six sons likes to say that we raised a bunch of nancy boys. They are very "can do" people with probably too much sensitivity. I've had nice compliments from their mates. Not to pat myself on the back--only to agree with your armchair psychology! J.
ReplyDeleteWell said Sir! I am doing my best to raise a fine Southern Gentleman in my home. I think respect and tradition are lost on this generation, and it makes me sad.
ReplyDeleteBravo James. That's why I love reading your posts. I witness far too often us mom's who baby our boys & neglect taking the time to teach them life long skills. I'm so proud my sons can thread a needle, iron a shirt, scrub a toilet, & bake/cook alongside any female. And..still open a ladies car door or hold a door open for anyone. My first husband was an obvious mamma's boy when I met him & didn't really read a lot into it as my mom didn't raise my brothers like that. I found out the hard what just what you were speaking of. He turned out to be physically & verbally abusive. I endured that for 22 yrs. of my life.
ReplyDeleteYour grandsons have such a great role model in you and in their father. I wish you could give parenting class James.
Thank you!
Hear, hear! I agree wholeheartedly. I hope to raise a daughter who is brimming with confidence and the knowledge to steer clear of abusive people and a son who is confident in himself and has respect for women. Thank heavens I found a good man and hopefully we'll raise good children
ReplyDeleteHow lovely - a manly man sounds good to me..;-) And what a gorgeous photograph of a handsome young member of the ratpack, James.
ReplyDeleteI totally understand where you're coming from. I totally agree with you.
ReplyDeleteYes, I've always believed in a little "benign neglect." : )
ReplyDeleteA very interesting post.
ReplyDeleteWe need to clone you, James!!! I was at a Ladies Golf Social recently when suddenly 2 older women jumped up saying they had to rush home to fix dinner for their respective husbands. ARG!! Those guys (retired) probably spent the day on the golf course and were having martini's by the pool. I know this is a generational thing, but c'mon boys, fire up the grill, pat out some burgers, toss a few lettuce leaves together and have a bottle of wine chilling in the refrig. for your wife! We women LOVE men who can cook, clean, and iron. It's not only helpful - it's sexy!
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